Thursday, March 12, 2009

Babysteps are hard!!!!

I have wanted to post for awhile but had trouble finding the time since it's spring break. Talk about slipping, Lorrie, I flat out fell hard. My dad has had lots of health problems and was recently diagnosed with his second unrelated cancer. I handled that pretty well. Then last week he was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. Didn't handle that too well. But I took some time to let it consume me and my thoughts and now I am back. I've processed it and have learned to handle it. Most days. I did turn to food to comfort me and it just made me feel so much worse. I have had so many life changing events happen in the past ten years and I need to get out of this poor me frame of mind. This is life, bad stuff happens. I know that I have to take it slow and take babysteps, it is just something that is never easy for me. I am such an all or nothing person and I know that is how I got to where I am now. Not a good place, but certainly much better than I was a year ago. So my commitment for this week is to actually make a commitment to babysteps! One step at a time. I will make one commitment per week and keep building on each one. Thank you everyone for being here. You are definitely a special group of people and reading your posts inspire me more than you know!
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  1. NoelMarch 13, 2009 at 7:31 AM

    Stacey, thank you for trusting us with your life situation. We are here to help each other. It's really good that you are here. I know it's hard to commitment to "baby steps," but it is the way to start your way to living the kind of life you want that includes joys and sadnesses. One step at a time. Great work here.

    Nutrition to carry you through your day is so important. Life changing events can seem to do as the name says and change everything in our lives. However, some things need to stay the same, such as good nutrition, proper rest, and exercise. These can become the bedrock or safe harbor of our days. Right now, as we struggle to make them into daily habits, they may not seem comforting, but we know that they will be!!

    Try not to fall into the trap of feeling guilty about taking care of yourself because someone else is not as well as you are, and know that to be strong and supportive requires self-care. Stay in touch and feel good about the (hard) baby steps!! You are on your way.

    My favorite metaphor (stolen from Flight Attendants) --
    "You must secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others."

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  2. BruceMarch 13, 2009 at 9:22 AM

    Thanks Stacey.

    Those are definitely challenging issues. They are hard to handle and sad. It is OK to be sad, but, as you pointed out, it is part of life and not an excuse for self-destruction.

    You have identified many of your self destructive behaviors and know they make you unhappy. That is really the most important first step. Now you must implement a strategy for success. I applaud you for your decision to start small and experience some success, but I feel strongly that you must identify some specific baby steps to take. If you don't have a well defined map of where you want to be, you will never get there. I feel strongly about this.

    What are your thoughts? What does everyone else think? Could I get you to make at least one absolute commitment that will help you begin to move in a direction that will leave you feeling happy for the long term?

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  3. LorrieMarch 18, 2009 at 9:40 AM

    Stacey, my heart and prayers go out to you and your father.

    Focus on one day at a time. Take control of the things that you do have power over and you feel stronger. Try not to allow the things that you have no control over take over your lie.

    Use this opportunity to see how important it is to take care of your body, to help you to ward off disease down the road.

    Stay strong, we are with you....

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