I wasn't sure what to expect, but I really enjoyed our time together. We are having varying degrees of success using the Prize Club concept. The fact that any of us are having success means there is some power here. I hope those whom are struggling are inspired by those having some success. I, for one, am there for anyone that needs help.
I want to mention again that small, manageable commitments are important. They should be easily doable and should be moving you closer to your Prize. Commitments can be tough without accountability, and we are here for you should you choose to ask for our help.
Lorrie, once again, laid a great one on us. Her comment "I realized that, if I'm not happy now, when am going to be happy? I am healthy, my family is healthy, I am in a great relationship, if not now, when?" How powerful! Taking stock, focusing on the positive and making a decision about who she is and how she is going to approach her life is just spectacular stuff. Thanks for sharing, Lorrie. I can't tell you how happy I am that you are where you are. I must say that a large part of the reason you are where you are is because of the choices you made. Wouldn't you agree?
It would be easy to say, "Well, sure, if I were in her situation, I would be happy too." The reality is that Lorrie made her bed. She quit a job she had become disillusioned with. No easy thing to do. The path of least resistance would have been to keep it for the security. But she took the risk and left. She has always exercised, but not like she is now. Her choice was to train more often, harder and longer. She has always eaten reasonably well, but made a decision to be more conscious of her diet. Her Prize has clearly become more important than the short term, so called "treating myself". She is down for the real thing, her Prize. As I have said before, it is soooo worth it!
My personal happiness is based on the choices I make.
-I am not trapped.
-I am not a victim.
-My ego is unimportant and needs no protecting.
-I cannot see into the future, I can only do my best today.
-Making the most of today matters.
Getting out of myself and making a small difference in the lives of others is the key.
Thanks Bruce, I thought the meeting was awesome. I know that I have been struggling and need to pick one prize to claim for now! There are so many things I want to change and I've been living in this fog for so long now. I do know one huge change I have made since the prize club started. I wake each day with a sense of purpose. And I am grateful to God for what I have now. I have the most beautiful little boy and I am here for him. And that is huge. Just to be here with him is incredible. And I am thankful. Before the prize club, I would wake up and worry all the time about what could happen to him. I wasn't enjoying things because all I did was worry. And Kym helped me through that so much. Life is about living and being the best person you can be, not sitting around worrying about what might happen! I am so thankful for you and Kym and the prize club!
ReplyDeleteHey, Bruce! I think I must have been composing while you posted this! I didn't see it until I posted my lastest. This is a great set of inspiring tips and discussion! The importance of NOW, this moment, this day has been a theme for me with the focus on spirit-- if not now, when? Just as Lorrie also pointed out so clearly. This is the moment, now. Thanks so much! Noel
ReplyDeleteWow Bruce, thanks!
ReplyDeleteYou are right, it is so easy for people to see me now and my situation and say if I were her I'd be happy too. If its okay, I am going to share a little more of where I have been vs where I am now. My life has been a process, albeit not as hard as some, but still a process. I did not change my life overnight, it took years. But I was the one who made the choices and made the changes.
I worked a minimum of 12 hours a day in my former career. Every holiday, weekend, xmas eve, etc. I ate anything I wanted for FREE . Sounds good right? That really means I ate a slice of pizza every day that I worked, reubens, and baked potato soup. My cholesterol was close to 300 and I was 20 pounds over weight. I felt disgusting. I smoked. ( closet smoker , yet still a smoker) . I drank too much. My employees thought I was a B**ch, because I was. I had no real friends and was single and alone for many, many years. My family life was smothered by a person that suffered from severe mental depression. I had a herniated disk in my neck that had me in a constant state of pain and I thought prohibited me from working out. I woke up, went to work, came home, woke up and went to work.
Then I chose:
I chose to quit smoking. I chose to cut back my hours (with a cut in pay and added a roommate to make up for it) ( 2 roommates at 35 years of age enabled me to buy a house) . I made friends. I made a conscious effort to help to be a nicer person, and I became a nicer person. I chose to not allow someone else's depression to be the cause of mine. As a result I become a better person to be around and low and behold I found love for the first time at 41 YEARS OF AGE. I am closer to my siblings than I have EVER had the chance to be in my life. This I year I helped to cook my FIRST family xmas eve dinner. I quit my job of 24 years ( the only work I have ever known how to do) and am now partnered in a new business of my own. AND thanks to One on One I am in the best shape of my life and have almost no neck pain. Reubens were half priced tonight, but I chose to have a chef salad "no cheese, no dressing" instead.
Yes, I am happy now, but I would still be miserable if I hadn't taken the steps myself to make the changes that I needed to make. It didn't happen over night, but it did happen - I made it happen. And hopefully I will continue to grow and be a better version of myself today. Tonight it starts with having a cup of herbal tea in my favorite mug, instead of another glass of wine.
I hope I haven't "overshared". I hope this will help someone who is struggling right now.
Lorrie,
ReplyDeleteWhat you shared here was powerful and HELPFUL to me! You keep sharing like this, please! You are so kind, generous, and loving, it's no wonder you have a great love in your life. You are so worth it! I couldn't be happier for you. Thank you very much. Noel
Sounds like you had a great meeting on Tuesday!
ReplyDeleteStacey, thank you so much for sharing. Choosing 1 thing at a time, "less is more", is so very powerful. Your decision to wake up and enjoy each day and not be cosumed by worry is so freeing! Worrying creates such a negative spiral, but you are right, there are so many 'positives' if we choose to see 'the glass half full'. It can be hard to do sometimes, but having joy in the midst of a tough time is so empowering.
Lorrie - what an amazing story you have to share. It is certainly helpful to me, and I am sure to so many others. You are a strong woman and so committed to making a true lifestyle change. You live it and walk it every day.
~Robyn~
Wow! You are truly the real deal.
ReplyDeleteTHANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING!